If you’re considering putting a stop to your drinking habit, you’ve likely been running through all the positives and negatives in your head. You’ll be healthier, you’ll find new ways to cope, you’ll be the only one not drinking when out with friends, and what happens when you’re stressed…? As you can see, deciding whether or not to drink can be quite polarizing. You understand why it could be good, but you also battle with the bad. Maybe you don’t think you’re an alcoholic, just a little too dependent on drinking. So, we’re here to encourage you. You can do this, but we understand the hesitation. So, we’re going to explain to you some of the biggest hesitations people have about not drinking, and ease your mind.
Drinking Habit, Be Gone: Why Getting Sober isn’t Scary
Before we address why not drinking isn’t the end of the world, we first have to acknowledge why, to some, it feels that way. After all, especially in that 20-30 range, drinking is pretty much embedded in the social sphere. From sporting events, to birthday gatherings, holidays, and more— it seems like most everyone has a drink in their hand. It’s become a part of social situations for most. It seems like the hardest part about not drinking, for many, is not having a drink in your hand in public settings.
Will my life become boring?
The answer is simple: only if you rely on alcohol to have fun. You may not consider yourself an alcoholic, but if you can’t fathom having a good time without alcohol? You might be more addicted than you think. We won’t dismiss the fact that it feels strange to be in a social situation and be the only one not drinking by choice. But, it’s not impossible.
You might face the random question, or offer, but that’s when you make your declaration. “I’m taking it easy for a bit”, or a simple, “no thanks, I’m good” should suffice. If the question become too much, consider keeping a glass of water, soda, or juice with you. The pressure can feel like a lot at first, and if you need to manage it in this way? By all means. Sometimes staying sober means playing a role until you’re comfortable enough to speak up. Your journey to sobriety is yours to do in the way that makes you comfortable.
I feel like I might miss out…
It’s important that you realize you can still be a part of any activity without drinking. In fact, you might just have more fun than anyone else— as you can remember every bit of the experience. A lot of social events include alcohol, but that doesn’t mean they require them.
What if my friends don’t support me or understand?
The answer is simple: if your friends cannot support this positive life change for you, then they aren’t your real friends. You always find out who your friends are when you make a major life change, and this is one of those instances. Instead of being mournful of losing a friendship here and there— be joyful of the friends who support you, lift you up, and support your decision. Just because they don’t make the same choice, doesn’t mean they can’t support you in yours.
Embrace the difference
There’s no denying that kicking your drinking habit will make life a little bit different. Not worse, just… different. Embrace that! You’re entering a new stage in your life; one that is concerned with a healthy body and mind. On those days when it gets difficult, try reflecting on all of the positives things that have come from your not drinking. Your blood pressure is down, you have more energy, less anxiety, and you’ve been much more productive. Sure, life is different, but it might just be better…
